The general and most accepted belief about BDSM is that it is offensive and strange — imagine arousal with whips and chains... The fact remains that BDSM is all about trust. When trust prevail, the result can be very great with an unbelievable height of intimacy and eroticism.
However, there are various expressions for BDSM:
B&D represents — Bondage and Discipline, D/s represents — Dominance and Submission, while S&M represents — Sadism and masochism.
B&D have to do with the use of restraints or fetters like ties and cuffs and an addiction of spanking as a form of discipline. B&D happens when a partner is being tied up.
D/s have to do with a precise play scenarios, which a partner acts the dominant and the other as submissive partner. The dominant partner controls the submissive one and while the submissive partner complies to the leadership of the dominant partner.
In S&M, the masochist is the partner that attain satisfaction from either being inflicted with pains or by humiliation and the Sadist gain excitement by causing pain.
BDSM can be seen as the highest level of exhibiting love, nurture and intimacy when it comes to touch and play. Sex can occur without parley, dialogue, or any emotional contact. In BDSM partners or players make preparations before time with legible, mutual communication and this creates an exclusive erotic connection.
There are some characteristics of BDSM that make it appeasing to the players:
1.BDSM is just another healthy method of play: Most of BDSM players have been documented to be mentally healthy. This is one of the major reasons BDSM should not be condemned. Before now, homosexuality and oral sex were said to be perverse. One exceptional fact is that the players don't find vanilla sex as satisfying, so they dig in for something more energetic and affectionate.
2.It is not abusive: Unfortunately, just like the general myth about BDSM, that it's abusive or offensive. It's not in any way abusive. BDSM is mainly (dramatic) than being real. Partners must have rehearsed their role before putting it to action. The BDSM equipment like fetters, cuffs, whips are not abusive tools. These are being used to increase sensual pleasure. It's a fact that BDSM, whether lesbian BDSM, anal BDSM or what ever kind inflicts pains. But these pains are always controlled by the submissive also known as sub partner, who must have prior to the act state pain limits. Subs are always focused on the types of pain that heighten their pleasure.
3.BDSM make use of safe words: Before players go into action, there must be an agreement on a “safe word” or “stop sign” that submissive can call up at anytime. Upon saying these safe word, every action or the dominant come to a halt. “Red light” is one of the most used safe words. Some action words like “don't” or “stop” are not to be used. Trust can be broken and often relationships could be ruined when tops disobey safe words and this action could lead to Tops being banished from the community of BDSM.
4.Subs are always in charge: Generally, in BDSM, be it lesbian BDSM or anal BDSM, one of the lovely thing about BDSM is that subs are always in charge. This is because subs also known as bottom can command a safe word at any point and the top has no choice than to obey immediately. The dominant participants though take ultimate control of the scenes but are also very affectionate and lovely. They do their best to carry the bottom along according to the preset agreement between them. BDSM provides a platform where trust is built and every participating partner feel safe and well nurtured.
Understanding the term BDSM PORN
This term BDSM pornography, shortened as porn, is the illustration of BDSM activities with the usage of videos, arts, stories or pictures. BDSM pornography is not an involvement of the generic pornographic styles and positions. Though the highest subjects of BDSM bondage imagery are women and this has raised some criticism that it encourages violence against women. It is a strict demonstration of BDSM scenes with less or no show of sexuality (nude or sex scenes), which might be a navigation from the philosophy and titillation of the bondage scenario.
Usefulness of BDSM video
Video as generally known is a motion picture that is watched either on a computer, phone and other kinds of devices. BDSM video are of various types. Lesbian BDSM videos, anal BDSM videos and videos about BDSM porn are all available on the Internet and BDSM tubes. Moreover, for starters and beginners in BDSM there are thousands of BDSM tutorial videos available to guide aspiring participants. It helps a partner that is scared of BDSM to understand the foundation and principle of BDSM and in no time start loving the act. Videos can help new participants understand the rudiments of spanking, choking, biting and other forms of BDSM activities. Also, it teaches safety most importantly. Videos can also make one master the act and gain trust from partners and attain ultimate satisfaction.
BDSM videos can help participants to understand the techniques of the following BDSM activities:
·Teach on to carry out Impact roles like hitting, spanking and paddling.
·Teach on how submissive or subs carry out certain activities for the tops or dominant.
·How to go about handling Bondage and restraints equipment such as cuffs, rope, ties, plastic wrap, blindfolds, breast clips, etc.
·Defines role-playing i.e daddy & daughter, student & teacher, slave & master and so on.
·Cautions on discipline; outlines rewards on obeying instructions and punishments for disobedient.